I wanted to share some verses with you about being a Godly wife. I'm by no means telling you that it is easy, but it is doable and it changed my marriage immensely. We struggled for years and not until I got to the point where I knew all I could change was myself, but I couldn't do that without the Lord, did things improve. I had to learn to depend on God for all of my needs to be met, trust Him to follow His word regarding my husband, trust that He would bless my obedience and I had to be willing to be unselfish. I put myself out there and began to treat my husband the way that I knew the Lord would want me to, regardless of what I was getting in return, and it turned our lives around completely. It didn't happen overnight, but it did happen. Patrick began to see a change in me and the best thing that happened was it caused him to want to be closer to the Lord as well. Here are some verses. I'm also gonna add some excerpts from some books I have read on the subject.
Romans 14:12 says, Yes, each of us will give a personal account to God. Somehow I doubt He's going to listen to my excuses about how I would have been the wife He asked me to be if that husband He gave me had just been a better man.
Everything that I do each day needs to glorify the Lord. Am I glorifying Him in how I respond to my husband? (So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. 1 Corinthians 10:31)
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.
She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all."
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. Proverbs 31:10-31
A couple of good books on the subject are "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace and "Created to be His Helpmeet" by Debi Pearl. If you are a new Christian or are just beginning to really submit your life to the Lord and live for Him I would suggest that you begin with "The Excellent Wife".