Sunday, March 14, 2010

Divorce STINKS

No my hubby and I are nowhere close to divorce! Praise God we are headed in the direction of our 15th anniversary. That being said, my husband was divorced when I met him and had an 8 yr. old child. That child is now 24 and in Army Basic Training. Being the second wife and step-Mom was never easy. It's so hard to figure out how to do it all right and I'm certain that we made our share of mistakes, but we love him so much! We didn't get to spend very much time with him during is teenage years, by no choice of our own, but thought that the relationship was really improving. Anyway, now that he is in Basic we have received no phone calls, his Mom and girlfriend are getting all of those, only a handful of letters and now are not going to see him this weekend because he doesn't think he has enough time to visit with everyone, so his Mom and girlfriend are going to that. Rejection stinks and it's worse when it's coming from someone you love so much. Having to tell my kids we weren't going stunk. Just once I wish he had to be the one to give them the disappointing news. We are so disappointed, so very sad. Please pray for us, our hearts are broken.

If you are contemplating divorce and have children, do ALL that you can to work it out! See a good Christian counselor, die to yourself and be willing to put in a ton of work, effort and love even if your spouse is not doing the same. Trust the Father's plan for marriage. Be the husband/wife He has called you to be, regardless of who your spouse is being and trust Him to do a great work in your marriage. I promise it is possible!

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